No offense, but before you even got to the alcohol part, I'd be gone! Those boys don't deserve to be around someone who dislikes them, and believe me, they KNOW. Why would you even expose them to that? they need to live out their childhoods in a safe, well-adjusted environment. I am certain you love them enough to want them in your life until the day you die. What they are seeing now is that their mom chose a louse over them, and likely will want out of that house as soon as they can leave. Please do what's best for them.