i can feel your pain. he is not the person u fell in love with. u r doing the right thing by not bailing him out of jail. he would leave u just to go get high & he would not come back. give him time. let him go to court & then maybe he will get rehab. i do not know his history. u take care of u & stay with us. this site will teach u alot about the addict & how they work. prayers for you going up.