Originally Posted by
sfs 
She hasn't touched the alcohol we have in the house since I first confronted her about this, thus adding to my complex of having possibly accused her of a problem she doesn't have. Bottles of gin, vodka, and scotch, all untouched since last Friday. But all the signs are there, otherwise. She CAN stop drinking, she just apparently, under normal circumstances, chooses not to. I keep going back and forth on this one, hoping I haven't irreversibly messed up my marriage.
I could stop drinking anytime I wanted and did more times than I can count. The problem was staying stopped. Each time I stopped within a month I was right back to problem drinking that was as bad or worse.
At the end I couldn't stop because I was physically dependent but I was an alcoholic long before that.