Originally Posted by
FeelingGreat 
You just have to stick at it sfs and not take her denials at face value. What's your bottom line? Are you going to live with her drinking forever? If she's determined not to seek treatment, and you can't persuade her with love and understanding, you may have to consider the future of your marriage.
I can't live with this forever. I want to have kids, own a house, travel to faraway places, and I cannot/will not do any of those with someone who abuses alcohol and is unwilling to get better.
I convinced her to seek treatment for her depression, but that was after months of trying to break through a wall. A wall is up again, and I have to bust it down somehow.
Thanks for all the support, Internet strangers. I admit I'm kind of using this as a journal so I don't forget anything. I'm a scientist--my instinct is to gather all the data I can.