I find zero truth in the "woe is me" rantings of an intoxicated person.
First of all their mind is being controlled by a drug, there is not any normal or rational thought process. Not to mention, addicts LIE, Alcohol is a depressant, so any anxiety or depression is only magnified 1000x, which of course increases the tears, and drama, drama, and more drama.......
Personally, I could not stay in the room with someone having a self inflicted pity party of this nature. They brought it on themselves, they can figure it out themselves too. Or sleep it off and not ever remember saying it. (XA was the king of blackouts)
But in the meantime, here you are riding the crazytrain, being all stressed out, as the meaningless ranting and raving DOES have negative effects on our well being.
She can choose to/ and has the right to live in denial. She is an adult and will live her life as she sees fit.
Sure hope you take this opportunity to take better care of YOU!