Mine keeps saying after the divorce he will "put me and my children somewhere to live". I just look at him and say "no thank you" he gets furious and says I'm being so stupid. In my head I just think 'you will not have any control over me once we are divorced' I even say to him that I wouldn't feel right to have anyone pay for my things if I am not married to them. He also has it in his head that after the divorce we will remain friends 'as in have sex with me whenever he wants to' and still do whatever he wants with anyone else he wants to. He wants no responsibility and still all of the control.