Originally Posted by
searching peace 
I have a question for you. Did any of you go no contact with your abuser? Mine is at the stage of talking about me and spewing garbage and lies about me to family, his friends his co workers,
Etc. So in wondering if I don't talk to him or text him, will he forget about me and stop blaming me and just move on with his life?
Reading the book and found this I wanted to share with you, searching peace (and everybody else, of course):
"SHE IS STILL RESPONSIBLE FOR MY FEELINGS AND WELL-BEING"
In the abusive man's self-serving value system, the woman may be responsible for his needs and feelings after she declares that she isn't his partner anymore. So if he loses his job, or his new fling doesn't work out, or his mother gets ill, he still feels entitled to have her take care of him emotionally. In particular, he tends to make her endlessly responsible for his hurt feelings from their relationship or from their breakup.
So, no contact? Why not?