Hello Brian
I used to binge drink with my mate as well. I quit a year ago, and he didn't. We have been separated a year.
At least your wife acknowledged she has a problem and tried to quit at one point. This puts you far ahead of us as a couple.
There is a saying in the programs about one of the two people getting into a life raft. Otherwise they both drown. Well, I am sure you get the point.
Good luck and best wished to you. Keep coming back!