Originally Posted by
happybeingme 
You know your daughter doesn't want a sibling. Does your husband want another child?
I think it would be wise to consider the whole family you have right now and ask yourself do they want another child. It isn't only your choice
As much an 8 year old can fathom, she does not want a sibling. DH would be happy to have one because he knows I would provide all the care. The possibility exists that I could get some help with my parents, if needed, but I do understand what you're saying about the chaos and the unfairness to them.