Dee is right, change and support is very important during recovery.
I relapsed over and over again because I didn't understand that. Also didn't get that you need to have some kind of plan.
I think like most people after I quit drinking, I didn't know how to stay stopped. And most of us run into this as the only thing I used to cope with life was suddenly gone. It was like I lost a part of myself.
I was never one for counselling but decided the last time that I needed to talk to someone. And I found a drug and alcohol counsellor and I was lucky that he was able to get me into daytox out here. A wonderful program that was about 4 - 6 weeks long that actually had classes and groups and they would actually explain all the stuff you were going thru. And I discovered what I was feeling was normal and that there were things I could do and relearn as long as I was willing.