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Old 04-12-2015, 04:28 PM
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Exclamation What exactly is a recovery plan?

We have a excellent post at the top of the forum on this, but it's important enough to reiterate some of the main points

Basically a recovery plan is a plan to help you stop drinking/drugging and stay stopped.

Things like exercise and hobbies should be a part of just about every recovery plan - but I really believe we also need to specifically address the drinking/drugging too.

Think about changes you need to make to your life.

Not only changes what you do for fun, the places you hang out and who you hang with, but also deeper change.

No matter what you drink or used for - stress or boredom, anger, joy, physical or emotional pain - you need new coping mechanisms to deal with all those things.

you also need to anticipate those times when you will want to drink or use, or when drink/drugs will be offered to you.

Have a strategy in place for dealing with those situations.

Ask for help here if you're not sure what to do or how to do it

All this can be difficult - which is why support is so important.

It might be a Dr or a counsellor, or a group like AA SMART LifeRing or some other alternative...it might be outpatient or inpatient rehab - it might just be SR and other forums/chat rooms...

Find a level of support than works for you, and that you are willing to reach out when you're in trouble.

cover these bases, and you'll have the beginnings of a great plan.

This is an easy to read but detailed link which fills out the ideas a little more:

https://web.archive.org/web/20180728...0/SMA-3720.pdf



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Thanks for explaining that, I was wondering what this was when people talked about this on SR
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Thanks Dee, this is much appreciated.

The SAMHSA information is really good.
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Thanks for the reminder Dee
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Thanks Dee, this is much appreciated.

The SAMHSA information is really good.
I agree! I printed it out. Thanks Dee
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Thank you so much. I was wondering how I could even *start* to make a plan.
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Valuable info. - thanks so much Dee.
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I was a bit curious to know what the recovery plan of people who have been a few months sober has been. Anyone care to share?
I know everyone's different, and i'm just trying to use all avenues/advice I can.
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My plan included weekly counseling with my addiction counselor and daily visits here. SR is very important to me. This is my family. And their support helps me and many others.

I told my counselor about SR and she told her other clients about it.
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Thanks Dee that link is awesome 👍
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Dee is right, change and support is very important during recovery.

I relapsed over and over again because I didn't understand that. Also didn't get that you need to have some kind of plan.

I think like most people after I quit drinking, I didn't know how to stay stopped. And most of us run into this as the only thing I used to cope with life was suddenly gone. It was like I lost a part of myself.

I was never one for counselling but decided the last time that I needed to talk to someone. And I found a drug and alcohol counsellor and I was lucky that he was able to get me into daytox out here. A wonderful program that was about 4 - 6 weeks long that actually had classes and groups and they would actually explain all the stuff you were going thru. And I discovered what I was feeling was normal and that there were things I could do and relearn as long as I was willing.
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I agree! I printed it out. Thanks Dee
Thank you from me too Dee!

At this point in my life, with all of the stresses I am dealing with, it is extremely good to be reminded of this.
And I am sure there are more things I can add to make my recovery plan stronger.

I saved it...and I will read in detail later on.

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D this is so helpful and will help many i am so grateful to every staff member here

You guys are so awesome the amount of care support advice & wisdom is amazing

Thank you SR
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The other thing about a sobriety plan is that some aspects of it are adaptive, changing as your sobriety needs change, while at its core it is totally inflexible "I will not drink, no matter what happens."

My plan involved 90 in 90 AA meetings the first three months (adapted around a very busy work schedule, so they weren't every day, but I doubled or tripled up on weekends. I also counted any meetings with my sponsor to work on steps as a meeting). I now go to an AA meeting from 1-3 x a week. That part is flexible, but quitting entirely is not for me; I promised myself that I would stay through irritation, because I know myself, and it is easy for me to exit with all sorts of reasoned arguments & I need sobriety accountability in my small town... Example - I went to breakfast yesterday with a "Normie" friend, had the fleeting Mimosa thought one gets in a restaurant with Sunday brunch, but there were two different AA members in the same restaurant with their families. This helps more than I would have credited it in the past.

Other aspects of my plan:
I do SR pretty much every day & focus on giving support (committed to posting, sharing intimately, getting to know people here). I doubt my experience would be the same if I only checked in to SR once in a while. When you do SR most every day you really start to "know" people & their stuff.

I quit smoking. Yes, that was part of my initial plan, although I gave myself "anytime in the first six months" to go for it. I did it in the first two months. This was VERY related to my success not drinking! I have a long history of sobriety & relapse & so it is the "staying stopped" I had to plan for. Cigarettes are all wrapped up with alcohol for me! I can smoke without drinking, but can't drink without smoking. The painful process of quitting cigs was substantial & became one other incentive to not pick up a drink. Drinking without a cig would be no fun at all for me, and I don't want to smoke again, so that's that. (Ps. I got 6 months not smoking last week!).

Finally, I quit all my love/sex relationships (another part of my life connected with my drinking). I stopped Internet dating & "searching." I broke up with my live in boyfriend, didn't date in early recovery, let go of another ex who resurfaced & reconnected. All of those relationships were with heavy drinkers. I cannot be involved with a drinker. That's just me. It has been far simpler to have this be part of my plan. I have had a few times where a moment of flirting with a sober fellow has turned into a dinner date, but as soon as I catch myself I have stopped those too. I'm not ready. I know this seems extreme, but I am at almost 8 months sober, so my plan is working for me. Edit: I'm not joining a monestary - according to my "plan" I am allowed to actually fall in true love when I feel ready & happen upon the right (sober) person - my prior relationship behaviors weren't about true love..."

Other than the above, I do the "best I can". I attend a fair number of drinking events because of my work & seem to navigate them successfully. I enjoy my puppy, and take long daily walks with him. I eat relatively well, take vitamins, etc., but that's just part of trying to take good care of my self - none of that is part of my "sobriety plan."
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I have thought about this *a lot* since yesterday and am still contemplating the different facets needed to have a semi-comprehensive plan. This is *so* helpful.
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Thank you so much. I was wondering how I could even *start* to make a plan.
I asked for help (in my case from a treatment center), and it has worked ever since.
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Going to see an addiction counselor next Monday. It's a start, I guess. Through the awesome link above, have realized that I have actually done some of the part one; "changing one's life patterns". Have yet to even begin to tackle the "overcoming triggers"... Please send your good vibes. Apparently, am one of the stubborn-*** alcoholics...
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