I think back to situations where he's been upset by how I treated him and they are so messed up. Example, a month or so ago we went to buy a new car seat. I headed to the truck with the employee with a huge box. Struggled with the tailgate and AH is still across the lot, taking his time. So I call out, 'can you come and help with the seat?' And he is enraged and yelling back 'don't yell at me!' Then sulked and angry for the next hour or two. I guess I'm mean and horrible and always yelling at him - humph. He has always said I cannot yell at him. This includes speaking louder. He is also partly deaf, so this has been very challenging. His concept of being mean, being an A includes any time I say anything about his behaviour as he should be above reproach while I am held to impossible standards. How would he manage being with a normie who had no patience for his laziness, lying, and other A behaviours?