Hi Periwinkle,
I'm so sorry that you are going through this. What a shock!
Although my functioning AH has not been arrested, I did leave him, and am dealing with all the other pieces you described such as not having the same income, currently living back with my parents etc.
And I can say this - it's really not as bad as I thought it was going to be!
In fact, I am starting to enjoy it.
The thought of it was MUCH worse than the reality.
Yes, there are times when I feel REALLY sad, and I miss him, however I am beginning to notice that I feel more peaceful and less stressed. Even with a functioning addict, living in that kind of atmosphere is very stressful, and there is always a sort of insidious strain. It certainly had a massive negative effect on me.
I am out of that now!
And I notice that I am no longer worrying about him as much as I used to.
Surprisingly the money side is fine too. In fact my finances are looking up, and some new work came in. Plus it's easier with more energy to focus on work where I am not dealing with the latest craziness or crisis of being with an addict.
I'm actually able to be more organised with my finances, and can see them improving. It makes me feel good in myself!
So although what has happened to you totally sucks right now, you will be OK. You and your son. x
And I believe you will find some silver linings.
Sending you love and stay strong.