First of all, welcome!
One of the biggest lessons we learn through Al-anon is to mean what we say, say what we mean and not say it in a mean way. If it's important to you that your child be with your hub on fridays and not in day care you must make that clear.
Feel free to post questions. This place is filled with wisdom, most here have "been there, done that" in one way or another and you can learn from their experiences and we can often tell you what
didn't work for us as well!
I hope you'll feel comfortable here...put your feet up and read, read, read! And feel free to ask, to participate, to vent, whatever! We share a common bond and most of us can honestly say, "I understand."