here - welcome and you were welcomed by the gals from the southwest already. do try to check out al-anon. it really helps most folks - they even have meetings for adult children of alcoholics (i am one myself and am married to a alcoholic - go figure). we definitely have our own issues and need to focus on ourselves which is the basis of al-anon.
come vent, post anytime - we're here to support each other!
hugs - chris