Damn Cynay beat me to it!
Welcome to SR HWGA! You are definately in the right place. As Cynay said there is a lot of support here and in Alanon as well..I noticed you are in the Southwest - I'm hoping it is AZ because I'd be happy to take you to your first Alanon meeting..
Read the stickies at the top of the forum..You will find solutions to your problems..even it is just to vent.
Big hug,
Minx