Ready at last - Thanks again, legal situation regarding son been discussed in earlier post. Got it covered. My name is one the BC and would get an agreement drawn up and signed by her agreeing for me to move away should I decide to do that. I'm visiting her for the first time next sunday after 10 detox. It will be refreshing t be able to discuss stuff with her sober for the first time in months. The facility is a nice enough place with outside space for child play so that's reassuring. It's right next to a whisky distillery which seems a bitter sweet irony. That's scotland for you ! I'm concious of the fact that I don't want to put too much pressure on her at the moment. She is aware of the time restraints regarding my decision i.e the length of time left in the flat but will try not to overwhelm her with stuff. Possible leave discussing it till the following week.