Thanks for the info Readyatlast, We have been receiving tax credits and will have to redo the paperwork at some point soon. We have been spoiled really for the last 7 years living in tied accommodation with no rent or bills. That enabled me to save a bit and not really have any financial worries. It's the prospect of coping with all that financial burden on top of everything else that has happened that worries me a lot, should I decide to stay. Would need to dip into savings each month just to get by but would manage. I had been saving for a deposit on a house for my family and the idea of spending it all to enable me to visit her for a couple of hours each week for the net few months after her drinking has destroyed our family would I think fuel my anger over all this.