rho, it is not you. it is him. he feels really bad about his relapse and is wanting to lay off the guilt and blame onto the nearest person so he doesn't have to deal with it himself. and you are the nearest person. stick to your boundaries and let him deal with his own issues (his relapse). you didn't cause it, you can't control it and you can't cure it. take good care of yourself and your little guy. know that you and yours are in my prayers.