thank you, I have to get healthy too. I know this, and to get there, I have to say no when I know I need to. That has not been my past, I have always been there. ALWAYS. You hit the nail on the head. in fact, everyone else has turned their backs, and I stayed. I felt like I did the right thing. so when he got sober and dumped me, and went back to all the friends, i was dumbfounded. Then he told me, I should not have stayed, that he lost respect for me because I didn't leave. I could not believe it. But I understand it more now, I am shell shocked. and now he wants to see me, he sounded great, He seems like he is in a good place. he is going to meetings, he still doesnt have a sponsor though. He is in a home for homeless vets, they are helping him find housing and a job, he lost all those things this last year.
anyway, thank you