I was so VERY sorry to read this. Pain is pain, for the right reasons or the wrong reasons. I won't lie- if my AH came home today and said he didnt love me anymore, etc I would be crushed, would feel BETRAYED (How DARE he after all Ive done for HIM!!) and PISSED OFF! All genuine, real, understandable feelings. I don't know much, but all I can say is the only way out is through....Maybe you will end up together again and maybe it wasnt meant to be, but you will be happy one way or another. I acknowledge your feelings as they are right now. Everyone here will be here for YOU as you go through wherever this development leads. As everyone else has said, she will do what she wants and needs to do and I pray you can find a way to make YOU smile even if its only once a day right now. ((((((HUGS)))))