ch76, with all due respect for all you have done for her, her recovery is HERS. You haven't earned a right to judge it, or doom it, or interfere with it in any way.
I know it feels like the hardest thing in the world to step back and let her go, but it's equally as hard for her to let go of people who have taken care of her in the past and to strive for independence. Yes, she may stumble. Yes, she may fail. Or, she may fly. Either way, she has been explicitly clear about what she needs right now.