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Old 03-22-2015, 05:33 AM
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LexieCat
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I'd suggest you not take those two weeks off to stay home with her and "be supportive." She needs support for her recovery from other recovered people, not from you.

If you want to be supportive, go about your daily life. Let her sort herself out. This is a huge change for her, and wanting to reexamine a relationship she got into when she was drunk is healthy behavior. Hovering around for two weeks might make her feel that all you are IS a babysitter. Act like a partner, instead, one who respects her efforts to get well.

I hate to say it, but hanging in while someone else is drinking doesn't entitle you to a relationship afterward. She may be grateful to you and still not want the relationship.

I'd go easy on the pressure--on both of you. And BTW, you might find YOU aren't so into her, once she's sober. See how things unfold.
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