Also, OMG, hopeful. I got the SAME response from my in-laws about my unemployed H-that I "only married him for his money"...because you know, I would totally have done that seeing as he was unemployed BEFORE we got married.
And he owes back child support for his child from a previous marriage.
What part of me found all that out & was like, "OMGZORRSS BREAK ME OFF A PIECE OF THAT??!"
Sigh.