My hubby will not talk to me about my drinking either. It is like pulling teeth! What was he saying? I agree with KateL... Try to let it roll off your shoulder. You can't control what he thinks or shares but you can control what you do and show with your actions. It took a year and my hubby is starting to believe the changes I have made.
Don't let this discourage you! Your AV will try to use it against you.