Hi All, sorry no posts for a while, all got quite messy over here, the plug is still in the jug but me and Mrs N are getting divorced, hence me being abit careful about what I post and where. Its all very amicable so far but we're only 36 hours into having agreed it between us. Part of me feels that I've been stuck in this relationship out of guilt for my drinking but have been drinking because I've been unhappy in the relationship which is a vicious cycle that means I'm a poisonous aspect in the relationship and my wife has developed a poisonous series of defensive strategies to deal with it all. Therefore I've taken her up on her continued offers / threats of splitting up, which wasn't what she expected but I think we'll both be better people for it in the end. There's a new-ish system in the UK called mediation which works as long as both parties agree on the terms and can be all done in 3 or 4 months without the need for expensive lawyer types.