I started understanding and practicing detachment when I came to SR. I had read about it but hearing others stories on ways they detached helped me the most. I remember a poster telling me something like .."he's tugging the rope to make sure you are still holding your end.. healing begins when you drop the rope." That made a lot of sense. I started to realize I didn't have to react to him. When he would say "I'm going to bed" and it was 5 pm I would simply say "goodnight" instead of rolling my eyes or giving him a negative reaction. I also stopped calling him and checking on his whereabouts. It was very freeing once I got it and I really have all the great folks here on SR to thank for helping me get there!