Hello! I am glad you are here, great support here.
I don't think there will ever come a time that his actions don't bother you. Ever. However, you can let go of the resentment and anger because that hurts you.
For myself, I went to Celebrate Recovery, came here to SR, and I think most importantly, got counseling from a therapist who assists families with alcoholism. That made a really huge difference in my life. And honestly, time heals a lot of things. You will start a new life and move on. You will create new and happy experiences that replace the bad ones in your head.
I am sorry you are dealing with this, but glad you got you and your children out of that toxic environment.