I struggled with this too as my husband has an addiction with another DOC and would drink too. Although he didn't drink as much as me it still bothered me when trying to get sober. But finally, I guess he recognized the good progress I've been making and jumped on board. Not saying that your partner will follow but if he sees you getting sober , he might want to as well. But if not, I say just focus on you and talk to him about your sobriety. I know I'm not much help as I'm new to this as well.