I has brunch with a 12 step friend not too long ago. She pointed out to me that AA provides a fellowship. People who instantly get you and can empathize. Where we live there is quite a community. She said, how much farther would your H be emotionally if he had allowed AA in his tool box? Because alcoholism can be viewed as an emotional regulation issue and the best way to learn about yourself and new ways to behave and respond is with people.
One of your previous posts notes serious codependency issues and that you are were born with fetal alcohol issues. You've been primarily posting in Newcomers for 4 years. I think your anger is denial that your therapist is speaking a hard truth to you. She knows your life story and your troubles likely better than anyone on this board. But you want to heap a whole lot of angst on her - ' How dare she say such a thing because I'm two months sober?!' She's a clarion Tibetan bell. Better listen up.