There's a difference between tough love and harsh cold judgments. I stopped coming here a while back because of the some of the people who feel their "tough love" is helpful.
I am a mind /body therapist and know all about how to dish out tough love, but never would I tell any client who is suffering from addiction or codependency some of the things people say here to others.
This place was both a blessing and not a blessing for me when I was in the midst of my insanity with my ex. Meetings are more controlled and less judgmental. People are tougher behind a pc and I agree, the format here should be more al anon group based and the same people who come here year after year and regurgitate their "tough love" should be asked to leave or to stop posting their harsh comments.