Originally Posted by
lillamy 
Sorry about the not-G-rated material -- but let me summarize the main point I wanted to get across from the blog in the link that was removed:
What people do in the bedroom is between two consenting adults. That's not the reviewers main beef with this movie.
But the movie depicts controlling, emotional abuse in a positive light -- as something men should want to do to women and something women should want to have done to them: A wealthy man selling your car and buying you another that he then GPS-tracks to keep tabs on where you go, a man who tells you what you can wear, who you can associate with, what you can eat -- this is abuse, and has nothing to do with love and depicting it as something desirable is disturbing.
It isn't disturbing if you understand what a normal healthy woman who is not abused and would never allow herself to be abused finds sexually stimulating about the above scenario.
Since I can't go into detail due to the G rated nature of this forum I will just say that some women find the aspect of 'being bossed around by a man' to be a sexual FANTASY. Caps because it is just that, a fantasy. In real life they would never allow the bossing around let alone being abused in any way, shape, or form. During the fantasy or role playing no one is really hurt. The words 'safe, sane, and consensual' are buzzwords to people who find this a bedroom game. Just wanted to clear that up in case anyone thinks that this is real abuse. No way.
I agree though that if someone disturbed saw the movie that they might think it was one way to express real love. But if we based movies on what might happen if a disturbed or naive person saw it then we would probably be only allowed to watch Disney movies. It is rated R so there should be no minors there.
I realize that there are some here who have been abused and so the thought of this movie is off putting. I am the same way about anything to do with drinking/drugs. I don't watch movies where the theme is drinking. I don't laugh at jokes or things people put on facebook about being drunk or high. It isn't funny to me. But I have been burned by a family member who is addicted. I wouldn't try to ban those movies but I do personally boycott them so I can see your point of view. Absolutely don't watch it if it bothers you.
Kari