Wife...I have never heard of someone hiding alcohol who wasn't an alcoholic.
I gather that this behavior has been going on for a long time.
You are not going to change him.
You can only take action in the behalf of you and your child.
It is up to you how much of this behavior you are going to live with.
If you are looking to him as the solution....I'm sorry to say that you are looking in the wrong direction.
I agree with honeypig....alanon would be a good place to start---unless abuse is part of the picture....perhaps talk to you counselor about this.
If you have been on this forum many times in the past...surely, alanon has been suggested...?
You say that you are "scared" of him?
dandylion