Originally Posted by
knowthetriggers 
She was raised in a very abusive alcoholic home - she knows this and talks openly about it but don't you dare try and tell her she needs help! OMG, the fires of hell open and earth trembles. I am not kidding. [B][I] I l
Thanks. Your 'fires of hell' made me laugh because this is what happens. I'm not trying to tell him that something is wrong 'with' him. I just want the bad treatment of the kids and I to end. Yet, when he sees nothing wrong with the way we're treated it doesn't really change. *sigh* I just want a healthy relationship.
My counselor told me a couple of weeks ago that acceptance of who he is, as he is will help him more. Basically, don't say anything about him needing help. I didn't realize before that my hope of helping created more problems.
I just don't know how to hold on through waiting for him to even see that change is needed. I keep having pieces of me crumble off while trying to endure less-than-best treatment at times and it is wearing me down.