Originally Posted by
wifeofanACoA 
I have been searching for an answer to my question without having to post but I can't find anything so I need to ask...
Has anyone ever had the ACoA in their life vehemently deny that they have any problems having been raised by an alcoholic? My H will deny until he's blue in the face that he had a chaotic or stressful upbringing. I don't force it on him but I have asked him to get help.
Please help me to understand. Will he ever get help? Will he ever admit that his childhood was not healthy? I see and read about so many individuals who have sought help as ACoAs themselves. Why does he deny any aid for himself?
**UGH** this is frustrating isn't it. My story is similar for my mother. She was raised in a very abusive alcoholic home - she knows this and talks openly about it but don't you dare try and tell her she needs help! OMG, the fires of hell open and earth trembles. I am not kidding.
I love her dearly but I have her to thank for my codependency. (She would never speak to me again if I ever spoke those words to her!)
I "learned" how to control everything around me (so I thought) because of my upbringing - BUT I
can and will stop the madness for my own children, at least that is my plan
