I think that the enlightenment coming from somewhere else other than me is quite true. I want so badly to give him a book on ACoA or lead him to a website but I worry that that will send him running far away. I have talked with him over the years and when we were first married almost 13 years ago he said that his father's alcoholism was not good. But never has he ever said that his father's drinking affected him. The AF was always someone to fix for him. I'll go and look at the article.