Tough, very tough. I am married and was married when I got sober. Keeping my family together was a big motivation in getting sober, at least in the beginning. I realized that as an active alcoholic I could never be in a relationship. I would never be able to make it work lying and manipulating my way through life but before I could even look at the relationships in my life I had to look at myself. Once I started to work on me and live my life the way I should, the relationships in my life got better.