Pink, I think were all aligned on the fact that intention is a key factor in breaking our sobriety.
Even had I swallowed the bite I wouldn't be beating myself up, nor revising my sober date, nor ordering a drink (or grabbing one from one of the many servers walking around with trays full of them!).
It was just a 'principal' thing for me. You mentioned your psyche won't let you order the dish again. Same idea: we don't drink so once we realize something has alcohol in it, we make adjustments.
It's wild to see how I (and all of us- regardless of a "number") have, and continue to evolve.