Sorry Ch1 as I am sure we have not given you the answer you were looking for. She is so early into her recovery. Go check out the forum for the new comers to recovery. Just look at those posts of the A's trying to stay sober. The challenges that they face. This is what you are going to sign up for, if you support her right now and be there for her. It is not pretty. It is not easy to quit alcohol.
Sobriety is only something she can do, you can not help in anyway. You have to give her time to see the consequences of her life. You should really hate her for all the crxp she has done to you and is still doing, by not putting your name down on the list. Just another disappointment from her. Write that list of stuff she has done to you, down on paper, and remember it!!
What we are saying is, if your relationship was meant to be, then it will. Give her "her" time to find herself, time to self reflect and grow. She has to do so the "two" of you can move forward. We know, we see it every day here. You can not love an A sober. Just doesn't work. Their number one love is alcohol, not you or me.
Sorry, keep reading and educating yourself!! Stay away as you will get bitten!! IMO!!