OMG... THANK YOU!
Welcome to SR
You have just given me a inside look to what my life could have been. My ex-ABF (living with) has been 6 months sober, but he has not changed at all, in fact since he left me 6 months ago it has gotten much worse for him.... he refuses to grow up and is partying without drinking with his "fellowship"
Im not sure how they cant see that they have not changed when their world is falling down around them, I actually liked him better when he drank as far as our lives together.
Im just coming to the point now where Im really looking at that whole relationship and giving thanks to God for removing me from it. I love him yes, but that life that you described was where I would have been....
*hugs* I do feel for you!