I think it sounds good. We are so used to engaging and getting in there that not doing any of that feels wrong/wierd/alarming.
I feel as if I am reading a "sound mind"
but I do have a question - why did you give him a lovey card if you are feeling "anti"? Are you "trying" - I don't know your whole story but I couldn't put my head around the card and the rest of the story...