We do have influence on most everything in our lives, but not control over everything. If we put good stuff in, good stuff or better stuff "generally" comes out. It is what we make it. Sobriety enables me to contribute positively, but sobriety does not make things good. It is what I do sober that makes things good. If I just put down the drink and do nothing else, then nothing changes. My life was also in a black cloud because I continued to do stupid things or not move forward when drinking. Things have changed to say the least. Quitting drinking did not do it. Quitting drinking just allowed me the opportunity.