Thanks, Mike. As a double winner, I can assure everyone that when I was using, it wasn't AT anyone. I was selfish, I wanted what I wanted and when I wanted. What the people who loved me were going through, sadly, didn't enter the picture.
On the other side of the fence, I also had to realize that my beloved A's were not doing things AT me. Despite me knowing how *I* felt and acted, it was hard to realize they were feeling and acting the same way.
By working both my recoveries, from addiction and codependency, I've had to learn that what *I* want from life is important and some people just can't be there for me. It hurts, but the good news is that there are a whole lot of people who CAN give me what I need - don't have to fix them, make excuses or any of that.
I now choose people who enhance my life, not ones who I think will complete my life. Took many years to get to this point, but all of you here have helped a lot!
Hugs and prayers,
Amy