The brother needs to get the boot and be left to his own devices. And addicts have plenty of devices when they need them. However, if you and your husband aren't on the same page, you'll have nothing but friction. You and your hubby really need to sit down and discuss where you stand on this issue of his brother. Doing for a grown adult isn't going to help them help themselves any faster. Good luck. Alcoholic families are real minefields.