I think when we over Romanize our relationships it should be a big red flag, we need to stop, look and proceed with extreme caution.
We need to ask ourselves what is missing inside of us where someone with major addiction issues is our answer?
Usually a new relationship with an active – trying to get sober and stay sober alcoholic is a modern day fairy tale that doesn’t end well.
Why not just allow him to do his recovery thing and you seek out some counseling and do your recovery thing and THEN a year or so down the road when hopefully you are both in different places with yourselves then possible explore a relationship.