K- Welcome. Sorry that you are here at this forum. We all love an addict and that is why we come for support. he is an A and his love for alcohol will always trump his love for others.
I am going to post some of my favorite comments that I save and have helped me.
All too often, the only way to help an alcoholic is to start shutting doors. Give an alcoholic a place to live, or money, or even love, and they will stay stuck in their disease. Very often the only thing that gets an alcoholic to get help is for them to have a moment of lucidity and realize that everyone is gone, and that they are the common denominator of their own misery.
You can't fix him. He is in the midst of his disease. He will seek recovery--real recovery when he decides to---and, not one minute sooner. It will have to come from within him because HE wants it--WHAT YOU WANT doesn't even figure into the equation, in his alcoholic thinking.
Educate yourself about this disease. Realize that you can only help you. (((((((hugs)))))