I recently adopted pretty much that same slogan.
Right before Christmas, I finally filed for divorce from my RAH.
He's been sober 2 1/2 yrs., but continues to lie, remains distant and secretive... I realized that this is as good as it gets with him.
I kept praying about this, and got that message- I will never have a good husband/ or relationship unless I let go of the bad one I have now.
For a long time I felt like staying was just maintaining the status quo, and at some point things were bound to improve. He (God) finally impressed on me that by not choosing to leave, I was making a choice to stay and that by doing so I was preventing the possibility of having a good relationship.
I have worked hard on me over the last two and a half years, meetings, steps, sponsor, therapist... I have changed.
I get it now, that if I want something different, I have to do something different.
If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you always got.
I cannot have the good until I let go of the bad.