My thought is what was motive for guy friend even mentioning conversation?
He didn't want to get in the middle yet proceeded to?
IMo it was inappropriate for guy friend to let himself get dragged into the middle and THEN tell you about it, dragging you back into it.
Yerngona waste a lot of time tryin to figure out the alcoholic when ya should be taking that time to work to work on you.
He wants to say he doesn't have a problem and now you're making it your problem.
He's not your monkey and not your circus.