Enabler, I understand how you feel. At least, in jail, he would have some time for his brain to "dry out" somewhat. He will have pleanty of time to reflect, also.
It will give you some relief. At least you will know that he is "safe" while he is there.
I will be thinking about you, tomorrow.
I hope you can come and let us know how it goes tomorrow.
You are not alone.
dandylion