Enabler....I know that we mothers feel so guilty and bad most of the time, anyway...so, it is hard to shrug it off when others throw criticism o ur way. Because, for one thing, it confirms our most secret fear..that it is our fault in the first place!
Mother bashing has been a part of our culture.
It looks like you HAVE taken measures to avoid enabling. Some situations are very difficult to know where the line is. It just isn't always clear and easy..as I well know. Those who think it is are probably not mothers of an addict.
Enabler....you are going to have to grow a thick rhino skin.....!
enabler..I don't quite get that getting dangerously drunk is going to help him avoid jail (you said that this was his his l ine of thinking..?)
Yes, they can get booze anywhere if they want to. In a homeless shelter they can test them if they appear intoxicated and turn them away. This is why a lot of alcoholics don't want to go to the shelters. (not all shelters are alike, by the way).
dandylion